‘Clarity of Purpose’ is probably one of the most important if not “the” most important aspect of living a fulfilling life. By making all the different segments hum in union, you will start to live to your full potential. Here is a list of questions that will give you a platform to start to get to know yourself on a much deeper level.
- Why are you doing this?
- What makes this so important to you?
- What do you lose if you don’t do it?
- Is the will to change a necessity or is it for self-improvement?
- What will change once you become this “new you”? Will you have more energy? Be more beautiful? Find a partner? Attend more social events? Be very specific.
- Take some time now to think of who you would like to be in this life. Have a clear picture of this. Write it down in as much detail as you possibly can, and be as imaginative and brutal with yourself as you please.
- Once this is done, write another list with all the things you are doing at this present moment in your life to support this vision.
- And finally, from a future “YOU” looking back, write another letter telling yourself exactly what you think you need to do to become that vision.
- Compare the two lists.
You can break this down even more by asking the same questions again for each one, for example; what will it mean to you once you have more energy? Will you start exercising, cooking, walking your dog, pre-planning your meals? Will walking your dog bring you more happiness by being outside? Give you more opportunity to meet people in the park? You can apply this method to all aspects of your life and take it as personally and in-depth as you wish. Knowing this at the beginning will clear the road and make the information you are about to receive real to you.
Think about the last time you ate something because you liked its natural colour or texture? It seems like we keep drifting away from everything instinctual; our bodies know what they need, but we have forgotten due to all the noise around us, it is so loud that we cannot hear our inner-selves anymore? So how do we get there? How do we return to knowing?
Cravings on an emotional level may even stem from your childhood; think about growing up and being forced to finish everything on your plate. My personal story is that of my grandmother chasing me outside while I was playing with some soap, water and a sandwich. Sometime family shows you how much they love you by the amount of food they offer you, which is always enough to feed a small army, and in many European families chicken is considered vegetarian. If you grew up in a household like this, overeating is not only normal but somehow mandatory, so as to not offend anyone.
Social obligations often dictate what is acceptable in that situation. For example, since I developed hyperglycaemia and being a very social person, I have found it very challenging at times to “fit in” but with years of practice I have learned that you just don’t have to, and people somehow get used to you and that becomes your “thing”. Don’t get me wrong, “people don’t understand what they don’t understand”, and some will still scrutinise you, but it is worth it. In the end, once you go home and feel terrible because of the food and drink choices you made in order not to be different (or offend!), it will affect you and only you. There is always a better option. By reading on you will learn about the foods you can substitute in any situation, and the knowledge of how and why.
Relationships with food can also depend on the budget you are working with and in that case even more planning is required. Making subtle changes or even substituting low nutrient dense foods with one or two high nutrient dense foods can make a big difference and improvement to your health. A simple example of this would be to drink more water. Many people suffer from headaches as well as other ailments due to being dehydrated. This then leads to spending money on pain killers, by hydrating yourself throughout the day you can potentially eliminate this and many other problems. This is how easy and inexpensive it can be to get started!
By being mindful and getting to know your body more, we start to recognize patterns and behaviors we were never aware of before. Many people deal with a very complex relationship with food and their body every day, which then makes eating healthily a problem that they have no tools to fix. You are trying to stick to a diet, but the issue does not lie with just liking chocolate, but with the truth of what that chocolate represents if the craving isn’t biochemical.
“Meeting the body’s micronutrient needs helps to suppress food cravings, and high-nutrient foods do not produce dangerous, addictive craving.” Joel Fuhrman